Why women date other marrieds?
Talk about a loaded topic that no one wants to talk about, this is it. Amusing thing, affairs have been going on ever since ancient times. Extramarital affairs can be loaded with evils, cause misery, and other harms. Also you have to wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety thing, finances, age difference, faith background, remorse, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this post I will classify an affair as a long term, maybe years long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, married dating.
Why do married people have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are seeking affair. I suppose generally though it is just the human state, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and appreciated. Here are a few reasons I have run across.
Physically we as humans are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasurable and exciting, and sex makes us flee the world for a brief period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Somebody are able to turn the longing on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another person, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos society has erected against extramarital affairs. For many people the yearnings will defeat their fears and make them risk the fury of not only their family, but the public also. So why, what is the catalyst?
Sex Addicts, possibly some of us are. Sex is awfully pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not hurt your spouse or anybody else? You would need to lessen the threat you are taking. If you have the attitude that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the biggest grouping, colossal in fact. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, but they are comfortable in the way they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the children to look after. Your assets are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay jointly besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them completing the sex operation, at least not with their spouse. An extramarital affair from time to time solves the trouble while keeping the marriage whole.
Avoidance, sadly this is a common groung I fear. One or the other, generally the guy is sexually neglecting his female for a number of reasons. As a male I actually am grateful to you guys neglecting your ladies and making them available to us guys of romance, making them “hot milfs” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, could be it is a lack of love, could be caring is disappeared, maybe it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Maybe we have simply developed separately, our ordinary interests diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is opposed to of what you want. Maybe I just don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that feeling that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The major reason people give is, they seek the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for financial gain, for payback and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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